Chasing Carrots: Perfectionism

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Life Group Study Guide: Loved what you heard on Sunday? Want to go deeper? The life group study guide will help you unpack what you heard on Sunday, while diving deeper into God's word.



When was the last time you were perfect?


What situations bring out your inner perfectionist?


Dig Deeper:

Read Matthew 5:43-48 (ESV).


According to Jesus, He commands His disciples to be perfect as God is perfect (vs. 48). Does Jesus realistically expect us to be perfect?


What does perfect mean in this context?


Read John 19:28-30. Jesus uses the exact same word for perfect in this text only it is translated, “Finished.” How does this text help illuminate what Jesus is saying in Matthew 5?


How might our need for perfectionism impact our relationships according to Matthew 5?


What cultural shifts does Jesus expect His disciples to make in the way we love one another?


Read Romans 3:20-22. Why might it be difficult to accept that we are perfected, not through our own efforts, but through our faith in Christ?


Make It Personal:


On Sunday, Pastor Jason gave three examples of perfectionism: self-oriented, externally-oriented, and others-oriented. When was the last time you struggled with one of these kinds of perfectionism? How did the struggle make you feel?


Why do you think people struggle with unrealistic expectations for themselves?


In what ways might perfectionism mask insecurity? How have you seen this play out in your own life?


How might we shift our focus to the work of Christ perfecting us rather than on our desire to make ourselves better on our own?


In what area of your life do find it hard to choose people over perfection? How might you prioritize loving others over chasing after perfection?


In what areas of your life are you driven to perform? How might you prioritize giving more grace to yourself and others rather than chasing after a perfect performance?


What is one take away or action that you will commit to as a result of this study?


Tags: love, jesus, grace, people before perfectionism