The Vow of Pursuit

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 Life Group Study Guide: Loved what you heard on Sunday? Want to go deeper? The life group study guide will help you unpack what you heard on Sunday, while diving deeper into God's word.

  • What is something crazy or ridiculous that you have done for love?

  • What insight, observation, or principle from this weekend’s message did you find most helpful, insightful, or troubling? Explain.


In Genesis 29, we find a beautiful demonstration of Jacob doing something crazy and ridiculous because of his love for Rachel.   

  • Read Genesis 29:1-30.List some of the challenges that Jacob and Rachel faced in their marriage. Can you relate to any of their challenges?

  • If you were Jacob and Rachel, what would you do? What would be the cost of Jacob taking a short cut in timed served for his wife? What did he gain in waiting and working for his wife?

  • Jacob pursued his wife through many challenges in their dating and early years in marriage. What are some of the challenges that have tested your good intentions in marriage or dating relationship?


  • In most relationships our good intentions are often far greater than our actions. Why do you think it is so hard to turn our good intentions into actions? Read James 4:17. What does it say about making our good intentions actionable?


  • What makes you feel pursued? How does this impact the way you pursue others? How do you cope in a relationship when your significant other likes to be pursued differently than you do?

  • Most relationships tend to start out hot, and slowly simmer over time. What relationships do you currently have that have stood the test of time? What made these relationships last?


  • Read Proverbs 18:21, James 3:5-8, and 1 Thessalonians 5:11. What do these passages of scripture say about our words and how we use them in our relationships? 
  • Words can have a powerful effect on our relationships. An encouraging word can strengthen the relationship, while a negative word can weaken it. How have you seen this personally in your relationships?
  • On Sunday, Pastor Jason made the point, “When you don't tell them something good, they generally assume something bad.” Have you ever experienced this truth in your own relationships?


Digging Deeper

Pastor Jason presented three principles to re-flame the fire of any relationship (see notes). Of the three opportunities we discussed on Sunday, what do you need to apply?  Do you need to “say it,” “do it,” or “be it?” Discuss and give specifics.


  • Is there something that God has placed on your heart that you need to say?


  • Is there something special that you have thought of doing that you need to do?
  • Is there someplace in your life where you want to be different, that you need to start being different?

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